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The Blessings are in the Journey

HealBodyIn my life, I have been blessed a million times over…too many ways to count here. I have a wonderful, loving, supportive family.  I grew up in a small town with many friends, my grandparents living next door.

I have always been independent, open minded and fascinated by the way people “ticked.” I was always drawn to the workings of the mind, the human body and the human spirit, which ultimately led me to become a holistic Chiropractor.  I am blessed with a busy practice on Cape Cod, MA, where I practice a variety of holistic techniques, working with the patient to peel away layer after layer of dis-ease from their body.

The word Doctor means teacher. I have always practiced the philosophy that an educated patient heals faster. If the patient implements the treatment they know will heal them, they will get better faster. They understand their “symptoms,” and how they can improve. Along with a variety of holistic chiropractic techniques, I incorporate Reiki and IET to reach the emotional issues that surface. Following my “Human Guidance System (HGS)”—instinct, intuition, or inspiration— I help patients determine how they could move forward from the dis-ease they entered with. Was it physical, emotional, chemical, mental, spiritual?  Conscious or subconscious?

Reading the signs along our individual journey is a blessing. Being able to get quiet, pay attention, and determine our course of action based on what the Universe presents us—who the Universe sends us—is truly a gift. When we follow our heart and read the signs, our true self emerges with every step. I believe everyone has this ability to tap in and listen to their HGS, just as I learned to follow mine.  We are all powerful individuals, with incredible potential. Each of us are special and unique, and in control of our own lives.  To recognize you control every action and reaction, and that you are here—at this time, in this place—for a reason, is a powerful blessing.

I continue to discover each day what a blessing this process is in my life, and how following my heart and tapping into my “Human Guidance System” has led me on a journey that will help bring about change for so many people. The people that have both come into, and out of, my life in this process have opened my eyes to the many forms blessings take. Even trials and tribulations are a blessing, if you learn and apply the lesson the Universe is teaching you. While it’s difficult to lose people along any journey, recognizing that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime makes all the difference in learning the lesson and moving forward.

I encourage every woman in search of Spirit to listen to your Human Guidance System, follow your dreams and take the leap of faith to move forward. I am blessed to emerge my true self and live my life’s purpose each day: to teach, inspire and empower others to live the life of their dreams. I challenge each and every one of you to do the same.

On our individual journeys, the blessings are the people, relationships, opportunities and lessons we pick up along the way… the blessings are in the journey.

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Navigating Life’s Transitions


“Regardless of what has happened to you in your life, regardless of how young or how old you might be, the moment you begin to think properly, this something that is within you, this power within you that’s greater than the world, it will begin to emerge. It will take over your life. It will feed you, it will clothe you, it will guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existence. If you let it! Now that is what I know, for sure”-
Rev. Michael Bernard Beckwith

Many transitions in life are expected, like marriage, the birth of a child or a change in career.  These transitions can be planned for in advance and handled without an extreme amount of uncertainty and pain. At other times we may be caught off guard with unexpected transitions-divorce, the death of a spouse, a personal health crisis or a downsizing of your corporation- these transitions are met with fear, uncertainty and an overwhelming amount of stress.  It’s during times like this that we have to develop coping skills, give ourselves permission to restore ourselves and have faith that there are opportunities on the other side of the event.

Below you will find some tools and tips to explore to help you cope mentally and emotionally through times of unexpected transition:

C: Choices.  When faced with unexpected transition, you will be faced to make many choices.  The first choice can be to choose that it is okay not to be okay for a while. Over time, be willing to accept the change, gather your inner resources and make a decision to move forward.  You may not have chosen the circumstance, but you can choose how you react to it. You may not be able to control the outside stressors, but you can control your mindset and how you will react to life’s events.  Get in the driver’s seat of your life and choose to create your future instead of reacting to the circumstances around you.

H: Harmony/balance In times of transition, remaining in balance can be an important goal that holds you together mentally and emotionally. If this is an area you wish to work on, you can download my e-program Are You In Your Drivers Seat?, search for resources online or look in your local area to help you to create balance in your life.

O: Om. Meditation and relaxation will keep you calm and centered during times of transition.  Don’t be eager to fill every waking moment with activity and noise, take the time to close your eyes, relax and get quiet.  Even taking a ten minute break close your eyes and take deep breaths during times of stress will make a significant difference in the way you cope with things.

I: Introspection/Intuition/Inner wisdom.  Take time to reflect on where you are and where you are headed.  Taking time to think through your coping plan before you act gives you a preview of things to come and will prepare you for challenges that may come your way. When you take the time to get quiet and go within, you give yourself the gift of the present moment and connect with your inner wisdom. Your intuition is a very powerful force and your unconscious can pick up on things that your logical mind may not. When choices need to be made, take time for introspection and ignite your inner wisdom.

C: Community. With transition comes uncertainty. One of the best ways to conquer the emotion of uncertainty is to turn to experts, coaches and others in the community who specialize in, or have effectively overcome the same transition. Stay away from negative sources or chat groups that talk just about the problem and not the solution. Turning to others who have made positive changes will help you feel connected, understood and empowered in moving forward.

E: Exercise. Move your body-find an activity that you enjoy and incorporate it into a daily or weekly routine.  Schedule it on your calendar and make it as important as your other obligations. Regular exercise is as important to your mental health as it is to your physical health. The sense of commitment will help you stay focused on moving forward.

S: Small steps Jeanna Gabellini of Master Peace coaching teaches “Baby Steps to Avalanches.”  When you take the first step forward you are met with synchronicities  -the people, circumstances, support systems and ideas all show up.  This is not a coincidence. When you read about other people’s transitions you will find it to be true as well.  Continuing to take small steps of inspired action, one after the other, and before you know it you will be met with opportunity on the other side of the event.

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Authentically Be-YOU-tiful

be beyoutiful“Being authentic is the ability to be true to oneself. Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs and desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight and compassion to see others, for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves and others and it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well.”– Victoria J. Reynolds

Are you living your life full out?  “Living Full Out” is living on the outside who you truly are on the inside.  It is living your authentic self.  What is your authentic self?  Your authentic self is who you are at the very core.  It is who you were created to become.  Your authentic self holds the gifts, talents and the wisdom you came here with-it is what makes you unique and special.  Contrast that to your false self.  Your false self can be defined as who society told you to be or who your friends and family want you to be.  Some examples of your false self can be the roles that you play: your occupation, your social status, how you make a living or the roles you play in life.

 When you are not living from your authentic self, you feel incomplete, unfulfilled or lack passion for life. It may feel as if you have an emptiness or yearning in your soul. You may feel depressed, tired, and sluggish or keep hitting roadblocks.  Living from your false self-drains your life force energy and takes away the energy stores you need to live your authentic self.  How do you know when you are living from your false self? You may refer to yourself as a “people pleaser” or take the advice of others over your own. Additionally, you may be living a life that ignores your true talents and gifts, giving into the demands of your current occupation, your friends/family and roles you play. Living from your false self is living from your “shoulds”.  You may have been deferring your life to others for so long that you don’t know what it is that you want to be, do or have. How do you know you are ready? If you feel sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, if you feel that you have lost your passion for life or if you feel that your soul is trying to get your attention-then it may be your authentic self-yearning to emerge.
Honoring your authentic self can be empowering and rewarding.  Even just adding some of your authentic talents may take your life in a new direction. You can start slow and choose to go at your own pace and watch your life unfold naturally.  When you start to live as your authentic self, doors will open, opportunities will arise and synchronicities will appear out of nowhere.

Beginning to live as your authentic self requires you to have a dialog with yourself- start with the following questions to help you uncover your authentic self:

Grab a pen and paper and sit quietly.  Answer these questions more from heart and less from your head.

1.    What were your dreams as a child?

2.    What are your special talents?

3.    What are you passionate about (what would make you get out of bed every day with excitement and energy)?

4.    What can you do better than most people?

5.    What will you regret in your life it you continue life as it is now?

6.    What is the legacy you would like to leave behind?

7.    Who most inspires you?  What about them inspires you the most?

After you answer the questions take some time to reflect upon them.  What did you learn from this exercise? Do you find yourself daydreaming of making a change in your life? The next step is to turn this inspiration into action.  Ask yourself how you can start to incorporate this information into your life and start living your life FULL OUT.

Start today.  Get inspired. Be brave. Be-YOU-tiful.

 

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Transforming Roadblocks

“Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions“—Anthony Robbins

Roadblocks, in their purest form, are obstacles.  They’re designed to stop you, or at least slow you down.  They’re frustrating, maddening and annoying.  They are also the biggest, most divine-sent blessings you may ever receive.  Roadblocks may come in a variety of forms: physical (an illness, disease or physical limitation); mental (a creative block or emotional issue that you must work through first); or spiritual (you feel a nudge from your inner guidance and need to take the time to get silent and listen to the wisdom provided).

As complex as a strand of DNA, Roadblocks involve your entire being-Mind, Body and Spirit.  Your conscious and subconscious minds play a big role, as does your spirituality, physical health and emotional state of mind.  The wonderful, saving grace of a Roadblock is that they’re yours.  The Universe specifically designed them for you and your journey.  If you ignore them, they will get bigger and uglier, and you’ll get stuck.  Claim them and work through them, and they become speed bumps-a slight dip in the road that you’re easily able to drive over.  Overcome them and you’ll grow in ways you’ve never imagined.

The good news about Roadblocks is that they don’t last forever.  They are designed to disappear once you’ve learned the lesson or overcome the challenge presented.  It takes patience and practice, but if you don’t learn the lesson, you’ll continue to hit the same Roadblock over and over again, preventing you from living the life of your dreams.

Here is a list of some common Roadblocks. (You can have your own personal Roadblocks, but you can use this list as a guide.)

FEARS: I might get hurt. I might fail. What would others think?

LIMITING BELIEFS: I’m too stupid. I’m not thin enough.  I can’t do that. I don’t have the education.

REARVIEW MIRROR: I’ve tried that before and it didn’t work. Been there, done that. I’ve done that before and I got hurt.

EMERGENCY BRAKE: Overeating. Over cleaning. Changing the subject. Leaving the room.

EXCUSES: I don’t have the time. I don’t have the money. It’s too late. I’m too old.  It’s too soon.

SELF-DOUBTS: I can’t do this.  I am not good enough. I am not good at _____.  I’m not smart enough.

DON’T WANTS: I don’t want to fail. I don’t want to argue. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I don’t like to be confrontational.

There are three effective ways to knock down Roadblocks: Evaluating the situation, Visualization and Working with the conscious and subconscious minds.  Below you will find some self-reflection questions to help you with the first one: Evaluating the situation.

First: Identify your Roadblock.  Draw it out if you have to. Take out a pen and paper and answer the following questions.  Does this involve my body, mind, spirit or all three? What do I want the outcome to be? If I were guaranteed not to fail, what would I be doing differently? If overcoming this Roadblock was my first priority, what would I do differently? What CAN I do to help myself feel better about this? Is there a pattern to this Roadblock? If so, what is the underlying message here? Am I focusing too much energy on my past? Do I need to forgive someone or myself? If I choose to overcome this Roadblock, what needs to change in my life?  What three things am I willing to change in order to move past this?

I wish you continued success on your journey!

 

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When you Change Your Mind, You Change Your Life

Have you ever really wanted something and didn’t seem to get it? Have you tried time and again to reach a goal, only to sabotage yourself at the very end?  Do you set out on a path only to experience the complete opposite of what you intended?  This is the power of your belief systems.

Belief systems drive our life.  Yes, it is great when we set out to reach a goal and we have the excitement, anticipation and knowing that we can accomplish it and it unfolds beautifully, but what happens when the complete opposite occurs?  Why does it seem the more we want something, the harder it is to get?  The answer lies within our subconscious mind, the seat of our belief systems.

Our minds are powerful instruments that create our reality.  Our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and actions bring about what we accomplish in life.  If we believe that we are talented musicians, we will play beautiful music.  If we believe that we are not good enough, we may fail at any lasting attempt in a job or relationship.  When it comes to reaching our intended desires, we have to look for any and all limiting belief systems and change our minds about them if we are to succeed.

If you are interested in the science behind the conscious and subconscious mind as it relates to reaching your goals, you can visit my website www.askdrkel.com for the details of how this all works, but the focus of our column is the power of your beliefs, which are stored directly in your subconscious mind.

Our belief system is what we believe about ourselves and our world.  Beliefs are formed from the moment of our birth and continue to be formed each step of our life.  Belief systems stem from our upbringing, childhood, parents, peers and society. Belief systems are not rational and can’t always be supported by fact or evidence.  They are true because we believe they are true or someone else in our life believed it was true. Beliefs are ingrained deeply in our subconscious minds.  Eight five percent of our success in life is controlled by our subconscious mind.  Our beliefs are thoughts we keep thinking. When we find that we are less than successful in any area, it is wise to take a look at what thoughts and beliefs we have about this and make some positive changes in those areas.  To reach our goals, go confidently after the limiting beliefs to uncover the treasures they hold.

Use the questions below to explore any limiting beliefs you have regarding these specific areas: Your Self, Body, Diet, Exercise, Career, Home, Family, Relationships, Community, Religion/Spirituality.

Ask yourself the following:

What is my belief system in this area?

Is this true for me?

Where did this belief come from?

Is this belief moving me forward or holding me back?

Would I like to change this belief system?

If yes, how can I change this to make it more true for me?

Goal specific:

What is your goal?

What is your belief system about it?

How does it make you feel? (excited, fearful, anxious, anticipation).

Is your belief system in alignment with your goal?

If not, what will you have to change to make this goal happen?

Remember, you have the power and the right to change your belief system and time you wish to.  If you wish to change a belief system, you have to reprogram your subconscious mind.  To do this, you can start with positive thoughts and affirmations.  Repeat these throughout the day, especially in the morning and evenings.  To water these new seeds, continue to say them daily and they will grow.  Continue to water them with positive affirmations and they will flourish. Remember, beliefs are thoughts you keep thinking.  Change your dominant thoughts and they will eventually change your feelings.  When you change your feelings, you will change your beliefs and when you change your beliefs, you will change your life.

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