When I think of self care, I think of self love and self acceptance. While I feel that realizing your full potential, balancing your “Wheel of Life,”and setting and rewarding yourself for reaching goals are important aspects of self care, I find that listening to your inner spirit (Human Guidance System), allowing space for transformation and loving yourself where you are today are the ultimate forms of self care.
Where does self love and self acceptance come from? How can it be measured? How can we define it?
Self love and self acceptance is part of your individual self-worth.
Self-worth starts forming the moment you’re born. You were born with the idea of being 100 percent deserving, with infinite possibilities and potential. As a toddler, you did anything you wanted and tried anything at least once—you were not afraid of failing. You didn’t like to be told “no.” You believed you were invincible and you did your best to convince everyone around you of that as well.
By adolescence, your deepest beliefs about yourself had been confirmed. If you had parents and caregivers who taught you that you were deserving of all the possibilities and abundance in the Universe, then your self-worth is probably high. If your parents suffered from low self-worth themselves, you were probably taught that the Universe was not yours for the taking and that you did not deserve all the good life has to offer— that you were a victim of circumstance rather than the creator of your own destiny.
Society, peer groups, circumstances, life’s events and decisions confirm these thoughts and feelings. Your subconscious mind absorbs these thoughts and feelings. And your subconscious mind brings your self-worth to life every minute of every day, whether you realize it or not.
Looking at your self-worth isn’t always easy. But take heart, even the most confident, successful people have moments of low self-worth and self-judgment. It comes with being human.
Part of the eMerge personal development program examines self-worth. By completing exercises assessing your self- worth, you can determine how you feel about yourself and allow for personal improvement and transformation.
Here are six tips from the eMerge program for improving self-love and self-care:
Love yourself anyway. If you feel you are not good enough, love yourself anyway. If you feel that you are undeserving, love yourself anyway. If you feel that you did something wrong and unforgivable, love yourself anyway. If you feel you may fail, love yourself anyway. If you feel afraid to take the next step, love yourself anyway.
Loving yourself means that you treat yourself with respect. Take care of your spirit, mind, and body. Do things that make you feel special and that help you move forward in life.
Accept who and where you are now. Enjoy the view. Treasure yourself. Enjoy the people, places, and situations of today. Show gratitude for the life you have. If you are not happy with the situation, change your thoughts, words, feelings, actions, or beliefs.
Forgive yourself and apologize when necessary. Each of us would like a “do over.” We all have regrets. We all make mistakes. We all have learned lessons the hard way. Now is the time to observe the size and importance of what is behind you. The Rearview Mirror is small and reflective for a reason. Look back to see where you have been. Reflect on what you would have done differently—learn the lesson. Let go of negativity—get the junk out of the Trunk. Put the past in perspective, focus on the future, and move forward.
Be kind and patient. Give yourself the gift of time to grow, develop, change and eMerge.
Do your best each and every day. You start each day with an expectation of what you want to accomplish. When you meet or exceed your goal, you feel good about yourself. When you don’t reach your goal, you may berate or criticize yourself. Realize that your best will be different every day based on your health, priorities, finances and level of energy. Always do your best in each situation and you will increase your self-worth.
Start to take small risks. If you have a specific fear that stands in the way of your goals, take small steps toward moving through it. Fears can be overcome. Fear is nothing more than: “False Evidence that Appears Real.”
Improving your self-worth through self love and self care takes time and patience. Give yourself these gifts. When you love yourself, your world opens and miracles will appear in your path.